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How To: Achieve Happiness

It always comes at the end of that answer we constantly give to those who ask us, “What do you want in the future?” No matter what profession, salary or family situation each person desires, everyone always strives for one thing. Exhilaration. Excitement. Pleasure. Contentment. Joy. Delight. Glee. To put it simply, it’s happiness. In order to get in touch with that true sense of happiness here are a few things you can do.

Become more aware

As Eckhart Tolle, the author of “A New Earth,” said, become aware of that little voice in your head. It’s that voice inside saying unhappy repetitive thoughts like “I’m not good enough,” “I’m too fat/too thin,” “I’m ugly,” and “I’m stupid.” One must realize that those negative thoughts don’t define a person; they are not who you are. They are nothing but negative thoughts and every person has the ability to destroy them. Once aware that those thoughts exist and that they don’t have the power to effect or control you, then you can start to free yourself from those thoughts and awaken to the happier you.

Embrace Yourself

Society analyzes everything we do, wear, and say—constantly comparing it to everyone and everything else. Despite how often tabloids compare different girls wearing the same outfit, asking the reader to judge the best version, and no matter how many beautifully airbrushed women crowd the pages of popular magazines—refrain from making comparisons. You are not them. Embrace who you are—all that you are. Each person is born into this world with a specific purpose, not one person has the same purpose. You are here just as you are for a reason.

Adopt a Positive Attitude

If there’s something that you want to accomplish, do it. Many are stopped from fulfilling what they want to do and how they want to be because of fear, anger, jealousy, doubt, and resentment. When these emotions come into play, become aware of their presence and know that they are nothing but thoughts. They are, again, thoughts that do not define a person. If you go beyond the mind, beyond your thinking processes, and get to the very core of your being, then you can truly do whatever you want, whatever makes you happy.

Be Welcoming

The need to identify what everything is, especially in nature, becomes very important. In his book, Eckhart talks about looking at the world as labels. Many see a flower and say, “That’s a flower,” but if a person could just take the time to look at the flower and go beyond the label, one may see much more. A person may connect on a much deeper level with the flower and feel something magical, peaceful—even ethereal. Keeping yourself from labeling people as poor, rich, spoiled, etc., may help connect you with the world and other people on a deeper level. One can find happiness and comfort in the idea that she doesn’t have to judge people based on a label—she can just connect with that person or thing for who or what they truly are.

Appreciate the Small Things

This means not only appreciating a beautiful sunset or a day with perfect weather, but also the little laughs shared with friends or a smile from a stranger. Appreciate the fact that you are breathing, your heart is beating and that you are alive. Once you take the time to just be silent and feel yourself living, you can appreciate every relationship with others and every part of this world infinitely more.

Embrace a Positive Mindset

“I’ll be happy once I lose those last 10 pounds.” “I’ll be happy once I get out from under my parents’ roof.” “I’ll be happy once I buy a new phone.” “I’ll be happy when I’m older.” That old phrase, “I’ll be happy when…,” is a waste of time. Become present in the moment you are living in. As Tolle said, “The past has no power to stop you from being present now.” It’s your choice to be happy—don’t set a timestamp on happiness. Set the to-do list and the worrying and stress of tomorrow aside. Just be present in this moment by making peace with it and feel the happiness radiate through you.


2 comments on “How To: Achieve Happiness

  1. Maria
    June 22, 2011

    This was very inspirational!
    I do disagree that it’s always your choice to be happy though. I’d be interested in reading some kind of addition to this on how to get back up when unforeseen frustrating events knock you down.

  2. Blissful Belle
    June 23, 2011

    Thank you for your kind words, Maria! Christina is actually planning on writing a follow-up article on how to bounce back from frustrating feelings/events. Thanks for your comment and keep reading BB! 🙂

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