Be Happy, Feel Beautiful
There’s been many times where I have gone to the movies with a friend, only to see that we’ve basically been invaded by the PDA’s—I’m talking couples galore, everywhere. They’re by the ticket stand, holding hands and smiling up at each other. They’re at the food concession, making googly faces as they realize they both prefer Fruitopia over a soda. And they’re sitting in front of you in the theater, making out and making you, well, sick.
It’s all enough to completely hate them, or be tempted to punch them in the face. Either or, I suppose. But that’s not exactly it, it’s something bigger than that: jealousy.
It’s an ugly trait, and sometimes you just can’t help it. But just because you see happy couples, does it mean you need to be in a relationship to experience that bliss? Living life without a guy really isn’t as bad as it seems. In fact, it can be better. You’re essentially having a relationship with yourself. Here are some reasons to remind you single ladies just why having a relationship with yourself is completely and totally fabulous.
You’re the reason for your happiness
Happiness can come from so many different places—friends, family, your career, birds singing in the morning…the list could go on and on but most of all, happiness comes from yourself. You hold the reigns to your mood and how you react in certain situations. If you just got fired from your job, you could either sulk around, wanting others to feel sorry for you or you could get off your butt and do something about it. You’re in control of your life, no one else—even at moments of greatest weakness and despair; you have to remember that sometimes you need to rely on yourself. There are going to be good and bad days, but with time, you’ll grow as a person and really learn to appreciate all that you have to offer. You don’t need a guy to be happy; all you really need is yourself.
You’re pleasing only yourself
Most relationships involve give and take. You have to constantly think about how your words or actions are going to affect your guy, as well as tip-toe around the truth sometimes to save him from being hurt. And that can just be plain exhausting. So instead of spending another Friday night inside, watching another Tom Cruise flick with your boo, you could be out with your girlfriends, actually having fun. By having a relationship with yourself, you’re pleasing you, and only you. No more time and energy will be spent to make sure your guy is happy; instead, it’s all about you, baby! Forget the days where you were at the beck and call of someone else and take the time to enjoy this period where you can just breathe and relax. One day, the right person may come along. But for now, sing off-key at the top of your lungs while dancing around in your underwear (yes, we’ve all done it before). Enjoy all those simple pleasures in life and just take this time to be oh, so, merry happy.
You have more time to do new things
With all the extra time you’ll have, it’s the perfect chance to pick up a new hobby or develop an old one. Scope out dance lessons in your city, join a gym, start a group for other singles that you know, and meet every once in a while for drinks. The possibilities are endless, look at the world as your playground and run with it. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun, so with all this extra time that you’ll have instead of going on dates, or just spending time with your boyfriend—get out there and try new things. Not only will you gain new skills and experiences, you’ll have a hell of a good time, too.
It really is nice to be single and focus on yourself, but if you find that years down the road, you’re still in bed every Saturday night, watching Sex and the City re-runs and eating Tom and Jerry’s ice cream, then something might not be right. If you’re comfortable living that way, then nothing should stop you—some people just aren’t meant to be the relationship kind. But if you feel extremely lonely and have begun to really miss the feeling of being with someone, then put yourself out there again and open yourself up to love. But remember, being in a relationship doesn’t classify happiness—it takes a lot of work sometimes, there are so many different aspects involved that may make you want to tear your hair out in frustration.
To put it simply, happiness comes from within, not from someone else. You don’t need a guy to help you live your life. If you were happy before, then you can be happy when he’s gone, because not every one of us is a damsel in distress waiting to be rescued by her prince. Instead you hold the key to your happiness and have all the strength, wisdom and courage needed to rescue yourself.