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Dear 16-Year-Old Me: Christina Fieni

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Dear 16-year-old me,

Let me start off by saying, I love you. I know you don’t feel that way right now, but that’s ok. It took a long time to get where 19-year-old you is today and I just want to tell you a few things to think over before you question that love.

For so long you’ve compared your self-worth to things that don’t truly define it. Whether it was your pant size, test scores, or the number of friends you had – none of it accounts for how much you are worth. None of it. Your true worth comes from within; from the love, respect and appreciation you have for yourself, your body and everything around you.

You don’t need to keep striving for this ideal image in your head of what you believe to be perfect and the “best fill-in-the-blank,” because no matter how hard you work or how much time you spend trying to get there, you will always feel like it wasn’t good enough. You’ve set completely unrealistic expectations for yourself; expectations that not even God himself could reach. What I’m trying to say is it’s ok to set high expectations and work towards achieving them, you’ve always been good at that, but you don’t have to wear yourself down in anyway to do that. You’ll eventually learn that no assignment is important enough to jeopardize your health or go against your morals/beliefs. It may take a while to sink in, but it’s true. That paper won’t mean a thing if you’re not around to see it reach it’s highest potential.

Also, you don’t have to be afraid anymore. For so long you’ve strayed away from taking chances and experiencing new things because you were afraid of being judged and of not being good enough. But I’m here today, as the 19-year-old you, to tell you: You are good enough. You truly are. And no matter how many people tell you otherwise and how often you have self-doubt about that, you know in your heart you are good enough and never forget that.

You are worthy enough to accept the happiness and love that has come into your life and in a few years time, when you begin college, you’ll finally be ready to put yourself out in the world just as you are. You’ll take advantage of every amazing opportunity that comes your way and put any fear or doubt to the side. You’ll meet amazing people, have unforgettable experiences and make friends that will surely last a lifetime.

Oh and before I go I must tell you to stop being so hardheaded and ungrateful when it comes to your family! Later this year you’ll be faced with one of the toughest things you’ve had to deal with so far in your life, and it will teach you to appreciate your family that much more. No matter how resentful or upset you’ve been in the past with your parents, today is a new day. Just give them a chance. They really do love you, and only want the best for you (even if they show it in their own weird ways).

Remember, always follow your heart and make sure you get out of your head every once in a while.  There’s no need to over-analyze anything, everything will be just fine, I promise.

Love always,



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This entry was posted on July 18, 2011 by in Bliss, Happy Belle and tagged , , .
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