Be Happy, Feel Beautiful
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Dear 16-Year-Old Marisa,
You’re going through a rough patch right now. You think you have true friends, then you hear whispers and snickers. Boys are challenging you. You seem to be having difficult relations with your parents…mostly because of school. It’s hard right now, but my dear girl, don’t get crushed by the hard times.
You will rise up from these hard times if you try and brush off the cattiness of girls. Although you might want to fit in with the elite of the school, quit trying so hard. Put forth more effort into being yourself and improving yourself. You’ll end up finding more joy with those friends who like you for you rather than the face you put on.
While we’re on the subject of faces that you put on, do you know how gorgeous you really are? Don’t spackle yourself with make up. Learn how to play up your features. Wear what looks good on you, not the rest of your friends! Take advantage of being a multiracial beauty instead of denying parts of yourself. When you accept who you are completely, you’ll see how stunning you really are.
One thing that doesn’t change is that you just continue to be stubborn. Pick your battles with your family. A lot aren’t worth the fight. Save your tears and your breath. Learn how to compromise if the battle needs to be fought, but please don’t turn it into an all out war because you won’t win mostly if it’s Dad.
Spend as much time as possible talking with Mom. Over the next four years, the two of you are going to become extremely busy and though you may physically be with each other, you might seem like you are on different planets because you have so much going on.
For now, ignore boys. While you see PDA in the hallways and your best friends have boyfriends, ignore this. Heartache distracts you from schoolwork and schoolwork is more important. Also, no boy you have found up until this point is worth a second glance. Yes, this includes the cutie that sits beside you in both your English and History classes! Wait until college. Most of the boys you meet in college are pretty awesome!
Keep writing. Don’t stop. When you finish one journal, start another. Improve your skills. Don’t edit or censor those crazy thoughts that come to your head. Write them down! Write your dreams! Write lists. Just never stop writing!
Girl, I hate to cut it short, but I could write to you forever. And knowing you, you’d get pretty annoyed because you haven’t met me and will never meet me (I think that’s how it works, because time machines don’t exist yet, haha). You’re going to end up doing great things! Just don’t quit now!
20 Year Old Marisa