Be Happy, Feel Beautiful
Okay belles I know finding the right guy is easier said than done! They’re too tall, too nice or too obnoxious, right? Hey, even Jennifer Aniston can’t find a guy she can hang on to for longer than a month, so I completely understand the lack of enthusiasm. Well, here’s some advice on how to be the Jolie to your Pitt, follow these tips and you’ll land a good one, just make sure you aren’t landing someone else’s “one,” (sigh)…poor Jen!
Don’t be desperate: Know yourself and know exactly what it is you are looking for in a man or potential partner. Don’t be too picky though, that’s how a lot of women let good guys slip away, a la Vince Vaughn, (p.s. I actually do like Jennifer Aniston, just saying)! Desperation isn’t attractive either so find a happy medium when choosing your love matches. So what if your list is about 5 pages long, single spaced (yea, I know your type!) just make sure to choose five key ingredients you absolutely require your mate to possess and you’ll be able to better acquiesce the type of man you even like!
Put yourself out there: I cannot stress this enough, to meet someone new you have to meet new people, its common sense you guys or so it would seem, but a lot of girls are not actively pursuing anyone new because they are scared. Rejection comes in a teeny tiny two letter package, if the guy says “no” move on! It may have felt like he just attacked your entire persona but he didn’t since …hello, he doesn’t even know you. And if your ultimate crush says those dreadful words and he’s known you since puberty I still say it just wasn’t meant to be or maybe he’s got another crush, you never know! So don’t beat yourself up over it if you get rejected, be proud that you tried in the first place, you got heart kid!
Do stuff you like: This definitely goes hand in hand with the above tip, don’t go to a bar where you know none of the men will meet any of your five requirements, that’s like going to buy a puppy and coming home with a guppy…avoid this at all costs. If you like sports, go to a sports bar or a game and mingle with the numerous single men there who maintain similar interests as you. Plus if you’re at a place you actually enjoy you’ll feel more relaxed and in the element when that piece of man candy approaches.
Play it cool: This might be a repeat of “don’t be desperate” just let it sink in! Girls who throw themselves at men are so passé. Don’t get me wrong flirting is always a “do” but don’t overdo it either. And when flirting remember to smile and seem interested, just at least act like you’re enjoying the conversation.
Dress Up: Okay so you want a guy who will love you for you! And I want a billion dollars, kidding…about that first part! I know we all want to be valued not for our looks but for our minds…hello women’s rights! But that doesn’t mean completely morphing into a dude! If you’re going out on the town or somewhere that you know single men will be take off those Pink Victoria Secret sweats and rock some heels woman! I know you don’t need heels to get a man but it wouldn’t kill you to give it a try! And dressing up can change your mood and make you a more enjoyable person to converse with at a bar or man infested area.
Be yourself: Don’t lie to that new guy because you want to impress him, just be who you are! The right guy for you will like the true you, the one that scarf’s down Doritos at midnight and is obsessed with Lady Gaga! The key to this entire article is finding the YOUR perfect man, not someone else’s. So be your fabulous Gaga-loving self and if he doesn’t like Gaga you have to walk your happy butt away!
And remember belles even without the perfect guy, you’re still the PERFECT YOU!