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How To: Choose Your Friends Wisely

Choosing the right friends in life can be crucial to your happiness, perception in others’ eyes and overall well-being. If you hang out with the right people chances are you’re more likely to accomplish the goals you set out, so let me give you a few tips on how to choose your closest acquaintances with a little finesse.

Quality Over Quantity: Having 2,500 Facebook friends means absolutely nothing! Having that many Facebook “friends” might trick you into thinking that you actually have those many friends when in reality you don’t. So, don’t just add people to your life as easily as you do to your Facebook page! Do a little research and try to tease out the good and the bad qualities in every potential friend, that way you’ll be more prone to surrounding yourself with quality people as opposed to just a bunch of people who don’t mean anything.

You Are Who You Hang With: This might not always be true but if you hang with a loser chances are you’re a loser too, because you put up with them, or you’re just confused. It’s like Rocky Balboa said “If you hang with nice people you meet nice people if you hang with yo-yo friends you get yo-yo friends.” (Insightful huh, thanks Stallone)! So if it’s your dream to one day become president of the United States I’d say steer clear of some of those scandalous people you might encounter along your journey to Capital Hill.

Happiness is Contagious: Recent studies have shown that if you hang with someone who’s always happy you’re more likely to feel happy too. If you hang with someone miserable you’re more likely to feel miserable as well. So pick people who see the bright side of life and emulate their behavior. Remember you catch more bees with honey so put a smile on and lets go friend hunting!

Monkey See, Monkey Do: Hang with people who have accomplished goals you might want to accomplish as well, so that they might be able to give you insider tips on how to reach your own goals more effectively. Make friends with your colleagues at your internship or law class. When you meet people who have similar interests and goals as you then you’re more likely to form a stronger bond with those people. And you’re more likely to succeed with the support of those who are experiencing similar events in life. Also, if you become friends with someone who has the same passions as you a friendly competitiveness might be sparked, therefore, enabling you to really try your best to complete tasks and reach goals. And befriending someone whose been there and done that helps you more fully understand exactly what it is you have to do to reach your goals, after all monkey see, monkey do!

Excommunicate The Haters: Sometimes in life and Facebook you have to delete friends so you can add some new and better ones. Making friends not only consists of meeting new people but also weeding out those that have been bad friends. It can be incredibly hard to cut someone from your life but it can be for the best. We all breakup with friends at some point so you’re not alone. If your friend is putting up a fight and convincing you that you guys should remain BFFs, simply remember that a person who promises never to wrong you is already wronging you by lying to your face; since behind her is a vast majority of aborted relationships. You want to breakup for a damn good reason so don’t be intimidated or swayed by some insincere pleas of loyalty.

Hope these tips find you and your best friends well! Remember belles picking the right friends is a challenge so keep these ideas in mind when you think you’ve found your new BFF!


About Alexandra Palmer

Alexandra is a native New Yorker who's always had a keen interest in news. She was drawn to the industries fast paced and deadline driven environments. She recently graduated with a Masters of Arts in multimedia journalism from New York University, where she specialized in video production, reporting, and editing. Some of her most prominent accomplishments include an investigative piece on campus sexual assault her and fellow NYU student Rajeev Dhir published in Al Jazeera America in February. Alexandra has also interned at several prestigious news outlets, including MSNBC's Ronan Farrow Daily Show, and Us Weekly. Alexandra's interests outside of journalism include, acting for film and television. Alexandra recently wrote and starred in her first one act play this August. The piece was selected as a semi-finalist in the New York New Works Theatre Festival. Writing is Alexandra's first love. Alexandra is also graduate of Marymount Manhattan College with a Bachelor of Arts in English and World Literature, and a minor in Hispanic Studies.

2 comments on “How To: Choose Your Friends Wisely

  1. LoveNiki
    October 20, 2011

    I really enjoyed reading this post. I recently had to excommunicate a friend, and the truth is….if I had been held strong to my personal & friendship standards I probably never would have been friends with her to begin with. Thanks again for the tips!

  2. Pingback: How To: Meet New People « Blissful Belle

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