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How To: Spot A Liar

Spotting a liar is easier said than done and in this day and age liars are becoming even more prominent. It’s important to be able to spot the difference between an Eliot Spitzer and an Honest Abe.

Liar Liar Pants on Fire: The habit of lying begins when we are still children, so it’s no surprise that lying is something people only get better at with age. With this in mind think about how often you lie on a daily basis and if you’re a reasonably truthful person compare that with what you might think a pathological liar fabricates about on a daily basis. If a reasonably decent person lies a few times a day you can bet that a “liar” does triple the damage at the very least.


Sherlock Holmes It: Stop talking and just listen! It has been proven that you cannot tell a liar by nonverbal cues with just your naked eye, so instead use your ears to detect points in a person’s speech that do no match up. Play detective and see how well you can put your clues together! If someone’s story does not match up with previous statements then you should question if this person is lying to you. Avoiding eye contact is not always a clue if someone is lying. A talented liar can look you straight in the eye and lie to you without blinking!

Not Everyone is a Liar: When trying to spot a liar you should also remember that not everyone is a fraud, so don’t be too jealous when trying to uncover the truth. Some people do tell the truth and you should of course surround yourself with these types of people; but do not assume everyone is lying to you without any evidence. This is a sure-fire way to ruin friendships and destroy relationships. So use the golden rule and treat others how you expect to be treated, and you’ll be fine!

The Truth Shall Set You Free: This is not always the case since usually the truth is hard to handle. The truth hurts but it’s your own willingness to face the truth that is liberating. We lie about stuff all the time; we lie so much we even believe our own lies! But it’s when we tell the truth to others, and ourselves, that we make the more difficult decision to be honest! However, when you’ve done all you could to uncover the truth you may wish you never found out in the first place. However, this will only teach you to be more cautious in the future! And remember what you don’t know can’t hurt you (but does make you look stupid).

Pay Attention: Okay belles so here’s the big secret you can’t spot a liar without using your ears and facing the facts! If someone lies to you it will be difficult to tell but if you take the time to listen and to put the pieces of the puzzle together then you will be more than able to uncover the truth more easily.

Keep telling the truth belles and you’ll attract other truth-tellers, if you lie then you’ll attract more liars, my advice, beware!


About Alexandra Palmer

Alexandra is a native New Yorker who's always had a keen interest in news. She was drawn to the industries fast paced and deadline driven environments. She recently graduated with a Masters of Arts in multimedia journalism from New York University, where she specialized in video production, reporting, and editing. Some of her most prominent accomplishments include an investigative piece on campus sexual assault her and fellow NYU student Rajeev Dhir published in Al Jazeera America in February. Alexandra has also interned at several prestigious news outlets, including MSNBC's Ronan Farrow Daily Show, and Us Weekly. Alexandra's interests outside of journalism include, acting for film and television. Alexandra recently wrote and starred in her first one act play this August. The piece was selected as a semi-finalist in the New York New Works Theatre Festival. Writing is Alexandra's first love. Alexandra is also graduate of Marymount Manhattan College with a Bachelor of Arts in English and World Literature, and a minor in Hispanic Studies.

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This entry was posted on November 3, 2011 by in How-to, Savvy Belle and tagged , , , , , , , .
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